I was excited to attend and help celebrate. However, when I arrived, I was surprised to find that the shower was being held at a local bar. I was shocked and confused.

This is a common practice in many cultures, especially in the couple’s family. It’s not uncommon for families to host a reception after the wedding, and it’s often seen as a way to celebrate the couple’s union and allow guests to mingle and enjoy themselves. However, the couple’s actions, in this case, were unusual. The fact that they had a shower before the wedding and then a reception afterwards, created a sense of confusion and resentment among some guests. The couple’s actions were also unusual because they were not transparent about their expectations. They did not communicate their desire for no gifts at the wedding, which led to some guests feeling obligated to give gifts.